Resetting the Nervous System

Resetting Your Nervous System

Sometimes our body feels like it’s stuck in overdrive, tense, anxious and alert, or like we’ve run out of batteries altogether, feeling depressed, numb, flat or disconnected. These are signs that your nervous system is out of balance. The good news is that with awareness and gentle practice, it can be reset.

Understanding the Body’s Alarm System

Your nervous system is your body’s internal communication network. It takes in information from the world, interprets it as safe or unsafe, and responds.When it senses danger, the sympathetic nervous system activates the fight, flight, or freeze response. When it senses safety, the parasympathetic nervous system helps you return to calm and connection.

After chronic stress or trauma, this system can get stuck in protection mode, constantly scanning for danger or shutting down altogether.

This isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s your body’s way of trying to keep you safe.

The Window of Tolerance

Think of your nervous system like a thermostat. In your just-right zone, you can handle daily stress, think clearly, and feel connected. When your window narrows through chronic stress on the system, even small triggers can push you above or below this zone.

Too hot (hyperarousal) might look like anxiety, irritability, racing thoughts, tension, or emotional overwhelm.

Too cold (hypoarousal) can feel like numbness, exhaustion, disconnection, or a loss of motivation.

Therapy helps widen that window again, allowing your body to handle life’s ups and downs without tipping into survival mode.

The Stretch Zone – Where Growth Happens

Between the calm balance of your window of tolerance and the extremes of hyperarousal or hypoarousal lie your stretch zones. These are the edges of growth, where your heart rate quickens, your breath changes, and you can feel yourself moving out of comfort but not yet into overwhelm. When you can stay connected to your body in these moments through breath, grounding, or movement, you teach your nervous system that activation can be safe. Over time, this expands your capacity for life.

Ways to Reset Your Nervous System

Resetting your system isn’t about forcing calm, it’s about helping your body remember that it is safe. Some ways therapy and self-practice can help include:

• Tuning in – developing interoception, the skill of noticing body sensations without judgment

  
  

• Body-up regulation – using gentle movement, breathwork, or soothing touch to send safety signals to your brain

  
  

• Co-regulation – allowing calm connection with others to help stabilise your system

  
  

• Top-down regulation – using mindful awareness or reframing thoughts to remind yourself that you are safe in the present moment

  
  

• Gradual exposure – gently re-engaging with avoided situations to teach your body that the threat has passed

Each small step toward awareness and safety helps your nervous system recalibrate so you can move from constant protection to connection and vitality.

Mapping Your Nervous System

Because every body responds differently, learning your own patterns is powerful. Notice how your body feels when you are calm, when you are stressed, and when you shut down. What happens to your breath, your posture, and your energy? This growing awareness lets you respond with intention, using the right tools to bring yourself back into balance.

If you would like support learning how to reset and regulate your nervous system, therapy can help. Together, we can explore what safety feels like in your body and gently expand your window of tolerance so life feels a little lighter, steadier, and more connected.

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